All Together Now
Because Yeah, Us Too
I’m the only single friend in the group. And everyone else saying “oh it’s not that hard to find someone.” Have you seen it out here, it is the trenches.
I’m incredibly jealous of a lot of my friends and honestly the money they make, jobs they have, and stability they’ve made. Hate how I’m constantly comparing.
I’m in my “silent dating era” which means I am not telling anyone about dates until it’s serious because it’s exhausting getting excited about someone for them only to ghost me 1 week later.
Is it possible to have found your soulmate… twice?
While seemingly similar thoughts of mine at times, none of them are my own.
One of my favorite writers/content curates on Instagram right now is
. He runs the endlessly funny Sunday Scaries Instagram account, crisply encapsulating all of the ups and downs of the week and weekend. From 4:30 PM meetings, inboxes that feel like (or are actually) 3,000+ emails, wanting to stay in, choosing to go out, spending too much money out, it perfectly encapsulates and meme-ifies all of the common emotions we so often endure.Will took it one step further, setting up a true confessional, a bit deeper, a bit more personal, and a bit more raw, to showcase all of us. The ups, the downs, the secrets we’re hiding from friends, a palace and space to take off the personality masks, and let our raw, unfiltered thoughts flourish.
Those deep crushes for people you’re not supposed to have crushes on, dreading time with your partner & kids, hating your job, needing a break from your friends, wanting to throw it all away to vagabond.
That thought you know has to stay between your ears? That though you know would spark 1000 tonnes of social dynamite. The Sunday Confessional is where you can let it rip.
makes it more accessible and relatable than the traditional Catholic confessional. It’s not a one-on-one with a seemingly holier-than-thou person bearing judgment on your every action. It doesn’t just let you write it down and send it into the ether of the internet. It allows us all, collectively, as thousands of readers, to take it all in and say together - yeah, us too.Vulnerability connects us. It’s what makes us human, because we crave acceptance and belonging. Vulnerability is the purest form of “this is who I am. I hope you accept me for all my flaws.” Confessing our mistakes, our deeper desires, and ourselves in full transparency, makes all of us collectively feel better. We’re not as much on an island in our own minds, but interconnected by all of our flaws, mistakes, hidden secrets, and desires.
It also has to be a story. It can’t be a generic phrase or statistic.
I could hurl a zillion statistics that prove we’re all in it together. 19% of all employees are miserable. 40% of married couples don’t consider themselves to be “thriving.” 55% of Americans think of their personal financial situation as poor.
But when you hear, “Landed my dream job (or what I thought was my dream job) a few years ago but my boss has made me hate it and now I think about quitting at least 3 times a week,” you know what it feels like to have your ideal career scenario brought back down to earth by reality.
Or when you hear, “Called my ex last night just to catch up - found out he has a new girlfriend (we broke up last week) - I lied and told him that I’m seeing a guy and that he is perfect, when realistically I got drunk on champagne and cried myself to sleep” you feel that. You resonate with that profound emotional imbalance.
Or when you hear, “i can’t stop buying stuff. i’m in $10k credit card debt after 8 months of being unemployed last year. i finally have a job but i’m spending like i make twice what i do and i don’t know how to stop.” While I hope you’re not in $10k of credit card debt, you can resonate with that regret of spending too much.
Maybe you’re somehow not prone to all of these life events. Your romantic life is in an idyllic place, you’re making more money hand over fist in an unbelievably satisfying career, you’re in fantastic shape, you have a deep reservoir of friends, and you can experience anything your heart desires. You’re blissfully riding on a cloud, gleaming over any doubts, insecurities, mistakes, or heartbreaks.
If that’s you, then I’m happy for you.
But, you’re lying. Because that’s not us.
That’s not what it means to be human. All of those fears, anxieties, and insecurities drive emotional connection. That is the special sauce for belonging. It is one of our deepest desires to feel like we belong and that our flaws on a daily and weekly basis are met with understanding instead of judgment.
So whether you’re in an emotional quandary in your love life, a career you really don’t like, dealing with tough family dynamics, or even seemingly smaller quips and quirks of life. I highly encourage you to take some time to read through some of
previous posts.I’m sure you can find others who hit a bullseye emotionally for whatever you’re going through.
Because yeah, us too.